Dear Abee, About A Boy…

Dear ABee, I hate men, but I’m getting a crush on one!

I’ve been enjoying my man-hating journey but have recently met a man who I enjoy spending time with. Please help.

-Anonymous Reader

Reader,

As a self-proclaimed man-hater who also, unfortunately, develops crushes, you can either bite the bullet and go for it or just immediately give up because sometimes it’s better for the mental.

If you go for it, you can be all cute and delusional again. Listening to some corny love song and posting lyrics to your story to be ominous. Or, knowing that on a day when you see him, you dress extra cute and look good...for him. Having someone to fall asleep thinking about, someone to make a playlist for, and probably never showing them. If you hang out, you can act all nonchalant but you probably want to marry them right there. I miss having a crush, really, but at the end of every failed crush, I scold myself.

Not going for it, stopping before it’s too late, and saving yourself the trouble is better for the mental in the long run, assuming it only ends up being a crush. I say, go for it. Crush on the man, listen to corny songs, and get yelled at by your friends for texting him whenever possible.

Life is short, love is pure, and nothing is real. Confess your little crush, or work up to at least. The worst they can do is say no! And if they do, they aren't worth it.

You are loved, reader. Love will find you when you least expect it.

-Bee

Dear Abee, About Money…

I believe I spend too much money on things that I don’t need, but they make me happy in the moment. like I have too many plushies, but I always want more. What do I do?

Anon,

 Plenty of people have spending problems! Whether it’s clothes, food, plushies, etc. It might sound basic but set non spending goals for yourself! Make a calendar, and the days you don't spend money are green days. At the end of a non-spending week, maybe you can get yourself a little treat! And then slowly wean yourself off of spending as much. For example, try to go for 3 days without spending money, to 5, and so on and so forth. Even making an actual savings account, or putting the money in a piggy bank. I had a similar problem, and made a savings account and while there’s not much in there, you always feel a little successful, and so adult when you put money in a savings account! And, with a piggy bank, it’s just fun. Mine is a Pikachu, and honestly it’s just too much work getting into a piggy bank to take money out. It’s always worth it in the end to have a saved amount of money, and in the case of ANY emergency, it’s there.

 And with the small stuff you buy yourself, how long does it actually make you happy? Do you think about the things you bought like two weeks ago? A month ago? If you can’t see yourself having the item forever, and remembering it exists, it isn’t worth it!

 -Abee

Dear Abee, about love…

There’s this guy I follow on Instagram. He looks kind and amazing, and I found him on other social media platforms and found out about some of his interests. I’ve seen him once or twice around campus like the dining halls and I happen to like him a little. I’m known to be bold but with this guy, I’m really scared because what if I screw it up and he thinks I’m not pretty or whatever. What do I do?

Dear Reader,

Being scared to ask a guy out is super normal. Stereotypically, it’s the other way around!

There’s plenty of love stories that start out with the girl asking the guy out! (Not to make you delusional or anything.) Go for it! Next time you see him, ask to get a drink, coffee or a snack! (whatever is legal for you) If he doesn’t want to because you’re “not pretty enough or whatever” he IS NOT the one! Everyone deserves someone that thinks they’re the most beautiful person ever. And, if he wants you just for looks, it’s not worth it either! I say go for it, and even if it doesn’t work out, what matters is that you went for it, and he probably wasn’t the one in the end. Whether this ends up successful, or not, all that matters is that you shot your shot. Our lives are too short, and the world is too messed up to not go for it! I wish you all the luck in the world, Reader. <3

, Abee 🐝